He's emotionally immature, the grown up gay version of the 13 year old boy who won't date a girl in his class who likes him because of his infatuation with an unattainable supermodel. Second, he needs to learn about all aspects of compatibility between a couple, not just physical attraction, but personality,lifestyle, interests and the other things that carry a relationship forward. Fior most straight people, this learning is done in middle school and high school For many gay guys, it comes much later.
We learn how to be a good partner in a relationship by making mistakes in relationships. First, he needs to get dating experience. If he wants to gain confidence and perspective, he should date guys who are very similar to him on the gay dating scale, i.e. If he won't date himself, why should anyone else? He may be working on "fixing" his body so that he likes himself, and i wish him good luck in that journey, but he needs to work on fixing something else so other people will like him. He's a bitter, entitled, self-pitying and self-loathing man. Isn't physical attraction fun?īasically, Dan, it isn't JUST that this guy was a judgey asshole himself (he is), but that Pride can encourage others to be even more judgmental. A friend of mine also got a blowjob from a skinny chaser who was distraught that he was attracted to bigger men, but they would insult him because it wasn't mutual.
In the reddit comments, one guy who's a chubby guy with a fit husband had some muscle queen ask his husband why he was with the fatty, and at a separate pride he was insulted for his weight, unsolicited. From this guy who hates his own body and blames the community for not accepting his self loathing ass (sounds like fun to be around) to the twink who wants to push his insecurities onto somebody else, Pride can be fraught with glorification of the sculpted and condemnation of the imperfect. He projects his self loathing onto others and wants others to fuck him but not if they're attracted to him (sounds ripe for a body change fetishist who gets off on sculpting a body to fit his desired image yes they're out there).īut, Pride can bring out the worst in the egomaniacal insecure assholes who want everybody to feel as shitty as they do. So, the original poster has a lot more emotional problems than just being fat and hating it.